While for some, success is the definition of a multibillion-dollar fortune, huge properties, and luxurious cars, for others it’s the excitement of working on their passion, achieving their goals and enjoying the satisfaction of attaining what they once believed impossible. Successful people perceive success differently than their spectators.
Here’s how Dr. Stephen Covey, author of the international best-seller The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, the great Maya Angelou and Arianna Huffington, founder of Huffington Post, define success:
Whether success is measurable, definable, or simply possible to be expressed, successful people have a lot of things in common. The core of their success is generally the same; hard work, dedication, and perseverance.
However, no one has ever succeeded without touching the sour edges of Failure.
No one has ever succeeded without tasting defeat.
So, what are the 7 traits that successful people have in common?
1.Developing the appropriate behaviour.
What do Elvis Presley, Lucille Ball and Carol Burnett, all three famous singers and actors have in common?
Early in their careers, they were told to drop their dreams and to go back home because they sucked at their craft.
No, this is not what they have in common!
They have in common the persistence and the self-belief that got them through the power of rejection.
To be successful, you need to make a self-deal. In order to achieve a specific goal, you should set yourself a goal that consists of the development of the following behaviours:
- Belief – Believing in yourself and in your purpose is a major key to the positivity that will surround you all the way till the end.
- Positivity – Avoiding negative emotions such as jealousy, envy, hate, and fear, help you build an aura of kindness.
- Commitment –Whether you are building an empire, or simply a Lego house, successful people always finish what they have started.
We often fail to understand the impact that our inner behavior has on our external acts. Successful people do not wait to be successful to behave like successful people, just as;
Ever heard the popular saying “No wind blows in favor of a ship without direction” of Seneca the Younger?
People living without a clear vision of their lives, their goals, their businesses, or their purpose are failing to prepare and preparing for disaster. Having a vision is to imagine in details the efforts you need to put in order to reach your dreams.
Watching it before it happens! This mental exercise can get you closer to any goal you have ever set.
A few ways to exercise visualization;
- Take at least 5 minutes every morning and visualize the closest goal you want to achieve. Example; A year from now, I will have a beautiful house with a large backyard, a swimming pool and lots of friends over for BBQ. Do not confuse this with dreaming! Focus on the image you see, and focus on feeling yourself in the picture.
- Write it down in your diary, on your wall, in the background of your computer or your phone. Surround yourself with the idea that your goal will be achieved and never, ever, have a doubt about it.
Here are some world’s known personalities who use visualization as their everyday diet to success
JIM CARREYTo stay motivated, he decided to write himself a check for $10 million for “acting services rendered,” dated it for 1994, and carried it in his wallet for daily inspiration. In 1994, Carrey learned he would reap exactly $10 million for his role in Dumb and Dumber.
ARNOLD SCHWARZENEGGER“I had this fixed idea of growing a body like Reg Park’s. The model was there in my mind; I only had to grow enough to fill it,” he explained. “The more I focused in on this image and worked and grew, the more I saw it was real and possible for me to be like him.”
OPRAH WINFREYHer commitment started young: As a child watching her grandmother toil away, Winfrey says she’d tell herself over and over again: “My life won’t be like this. My life won’t be like this, it will be better.”
WILL SMITH“In my mind, I’ve always been an A-list Hollywood superstar. Y’all just didn’t know yet”
3.Accept failure as part of the deal.
“Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm”. Sir Churchill Winston is indeed right because successful people fail much more often than people who simply consider themselves failures.
When you think about failure, you should perceive Failure as a positive event;
Just like an arrow is shot by being pulled backwards, failure is throwing your life into something better.
4.Choose your environment.
Successful people surround themselves with successful people. It is proven that people who have common goals achieve better results than those who don’t.
Do you recall your studying years?
All those painful hours of reading, of calculating, of focusing on little unmanageable formulas were less exhausting with a study buddy. The reason is simple; people love talking about themselves – and having someone who shares the same interests around them makes them feel supported, motivated, and stimulates their performance.
It’s hard to believe in your dreams, so when you find people with similar ambitions, you should hold on to them. On the other hand, investing too much time with someone that doesn’t have the same level of enthusiasm can hold your potential back and drown your talent.
Success hunting is an exhausting task. It requires a great deal of preparation, hard work, and most of all; it requires a lot of time. Setting boundaries to your path in an early stage is fundamental. Knowing how to say No! Knowing your limits and how to make sacrifices is crucial because by doing so, you will:
- Have self-respect
Taking control of your life is about setting limits. This may not be an easy task because life is filled with temptations and distractions. However, once you achieve this, you will be proud of your self-control.
- Earn respect
Consequently, people who take firm decisions, that follow-through their plans and who don’t let distractions get in their way command respect.
- Have control
Setting boundaries is crucial because it will help you improve your sense of control. Headaches and stressful situations occur when things go out of control. Thus, keeping them locked-down will make your life much easier.
Related article: 5 Self-Control Hacks: A Cheat Sheet On How to Develop Self-Control
Setting a self-reward system will motivate you through your journey.
Measure the amount or work that has to be done and adjust your reward level accordingly.
Rewards will help you to focus on your tasks and will make goal achieving even more exciting.
Here’s a List of Rewards you can apply for Your Everyday Motivation.
At this point, all that is left to do is to walk your talk.
As a wise proverb says: “Between saying and doing many a pair of shoes is worn out” .
No matter how clear the idea of achieving successful results is to you, it is only with concrete actions that you will be able to back your thoughts up.
Start now, and take action!
Improve yourself by changing something in your daily discipline.
Wake up earlier!
Read a book!
Have meaningful, and deep conversations.
And life will respond to your efforts.
Final words of wisdom
Success comes in different shapes and forms, different time schedule, whether you see it coming or not, you need to be prepared for it. Sometimes, life only gives you one opportunity of hitting the Jackpot, and being prepared for it will only optimize your chances of boarding in the ship of your dreams.
Work hard, follow through your plans, set your priorities straight, enjoy yourself, and live worry-free for the rest of your days.