How to deal with negative people?
Let’s be real once and for all!
Are you trying to have an exciting life, but are being dispirited by others because of your choices?
This happens to everyone that is leaving the usual lifeless standards behind.
In fact, you’re a little crazy, which is a wonderful thing!
If you live by other’s standards, you’re walking dead, as a real zombie. All highly successful people are crazy. It takes a great deal of courage to succeed, or to trace a path off the routed one. It’s unusual, and you must be able to fight the emotional charge.
They Don’t Want You Out
Unfortunately, being crazy can sometimes be painful, especially at first. Once you dig your territory, it calms down. Normal people hate when a madman gets out of the lines. This kind of non-compliance defies their choices and identity.
Rather than jumping in themselves, they prefer to sack you, attack you, hoping to bring you back to the stuck up mass, so they can feel better about themselves.
“Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” -Steve Jobs in 1997 after his return to Apple
So yeah, people will call you crazy, and perceive you as an alien, which is a wonderful thing!
But I repeat, it can be painful at first.
The Crab Story
Some crabs can’t be caught, as they’re too agile and smart enough to get out of any crab trap. But thousands of these crabs are caught every day, thanks to a particular human trait they possess.
The trap is simple: a wired cage with a hole on top, bait is placed in the cage, and immersed in the water. A single crab is tricked and begins to nibble the bait. A second sees the first crab and joins in. Then, it becomes the crabs Christmas party!
Next, comes the moment when the bait’s finished. At this point, the crabs could easily climb over the side of the cage and get out through the hole, but they stay in the cage.
Well even after the bait’s gone, more crabs continue to climb in the trap. They’re attracted by the mass. Doesn’t it sound familiar?
None of them escapes.
Because if one realizes that there’s a way out, and tries to leave, the other crabs will do anything to stop him. They constantly pull him out of the sides of the cage. If he persists, they withdraw his claws to keep him from climbing. If he still persists, they kill him.
Crabs – controlled by the power of the mass- stays together in the cage. All the fisherman needs is a little bait, and the rest is a little cake. Then, the cage is hoisted up, and it’s a fisherman’s party!
When you decide to live differently, you’re like the lonely crab that tries to leave the trap. Once you choose this different path, rather than encouraging you, your friends, your family, and your colleagues will try to bring you back in the trap. And just like crabs, humans follow the crowd. Academy, corporate culture, media and society conditioned us to follow the status quo. This means to just shut up and work.
When you succeed, they’ll act as if nothing happened, and tell you: “I knew, I always knew you would make it.”
Humans obviously don’t use physical force like crabs. They use better techniques: manipulation, persuasion, intimidation, and mockery, the perfect techniques to destroy your dreams.
1. You give them a poor image of themselves
When you get out of the status quo, you become a giant mirror that reflects their depressing lives. Deep inside, they know they should have the courage to do the same, but are too afraid. Rather than joining you, it is easier to ridiculize you, and to convince you that you are crazy and that it’s risky, and that you are destined to fail, in the hope that you return to the mass and remove the mirror.
2. They are not brave like you
They can’t leave the comfort zone. What you’re doing is simply not fit in their mental model of the world, and they are not brave enough to do the same. So they prefer to laugh.
Normal people don’t like those who come out of the mass.
“Don’t share your dreams with those who don’t have one.”
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